Talk:Diaper lover

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Should the link Diaper Fetishism be deleted as it redirects back to Diaper Lover?

I do not believe so, no. Diaper Fetish is a very common term describing Diaper Lovers. It appears the only time that a diaper is viewed as a fetish item is shunned upon, is for infantalism, in a way to avoid conflicts with pedophilia.

I believe we need a new image for this page, and the current image should be moved to the latex fetish page. Most DL's enjoy images of women in normal white disposable or cloth diapers, and the image of the "pvc diaper" probably appeals more to the latex crowd.

I agree

<original research> Please note that the two are different. If we define a diaper fetish as prefering to be with a diaper sexually than with a person, then according to survey results, a similar percentage of ABs have diaper fetishes. Thus, we can't equate diaper fetishes with DLs. Other differences are that the APA has a controlled definition for a paraphilic fetish, and DLs are people, while a diaper fetish is an interest.</original research>

By the way, if we are going to have a picture of a woman on this page, we might want be more explicit about the gender distribution. Even though many AB/DL pictures use female models, the AB/DLs themselves are predominantly male. (DSM 4TR, pg 568)BitterGrey 05:17, 14 December 2006 (UTC)

External Links

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5. High content pages that contain neutral and accurate material not already in the article. Ideally this content should be integrated into the Wikipedia article at which point the link would remain as a reference.

What should not be linked to

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2. Links to a site that is selling products, unless it applies via a "do" above.

Thus I've removed a few links. If you want to add them back in, please refer to the above (or note other applicable guideline pages) in discussions here first. brenneman^(t)(c) 04:03, 18 July 2005 (UTC)

Moved here:

• Diaper Pail Friends-The very first publicly available "forum" for people with this fetish to communicate with one another. Began as a Newsletter sent via USMail and evolved into a website with the advent of the internet.
• Daily Diapers-An online community for ABDLs

brenneman^(t)(c) 00:02, 29 July 2005 (UTC)

Currently, duplicate external links to both Aby.com and dpf.com appear in two places in this article [1][2]. Do people agree that exactly duplicated external links should be avoided? The debate about having one link each to these pages is ongoing at the infantilism article [3]. Note that the links were added to three articles from similar IP numbers: [4][5][6][7][8][9][10]. —The preceding unsigned comment was added by Bittergrey (talk • contribs) 03:46, 2 January 2007 (UTC). Opps. Sorry. BitterGrey 03:50, 2 January 2007 (UTC)

Adult Sites

I wanted to address a point of contention. Firstly, when I changed Brenneman's comments, they weren't intended to vandalize the page. Sorry about that. The first deletion was a mistake. I wasn't trying to remove it. The second was what I intended to do: Change it to make it more accurate. Again, sorry for the confusion. DPF first of all is an adult site. "people" is an all encompassing term meaing adults, teens, children, etc. I realize it's nit-picky but taking the infantilism page and this page here at Wikipedia into account, both basically state that the paraphilia can be discovered in adolescence and even childhood coupled with the fact that more and more kids are getting online, it's probably a good idea to make the distinction particulary clear. Those sites are fine and dandy for adults but not for youngsters. —preceding unsigned comment by 68.81.106.187 (talk • contribs)

No harm, no foul. If I'd thought you had vandalism in your black heart, I would have put something other than {{anon}} on your talk page! There are two reasons I reverted your (second, purposeful) change. One is that it was inside a signed comment on a talk page, those are mostly considered sancrosect. The accpeted practice if to do as you've done here and present a different viewpoint while leaving the original intact. Which is, confusingly, exatcly the opposite to what the practice is on a main page, to just make the change and let the chips fall where they may. The second reason is that I was actaully reproducing the text as it had been on the main page, a quote if you will. And welcome again to Wikipedia!
brenneman^(t)(c) 06:13, 16 November 2005 (UTC)

Unsourced Material

I've copied here the material that was unsourced/unreferenced.

• It is believed that a majority of diaper lovers are male, however recent studies show a growing number of females participating in diaper wearing activites.
• A desire to wear diapers may be first created whilst a person is still very young, during periods of emotional turbulence in their family, such as diaper punishment for accidents, or a reluctance to be potty trained, or the person has been potty trained too early or too late. In many cases, though, there is no apparent cause. Before puberty these desires are largely dormant in most of those affected, but during the period of approx 8-15 years of age the person becomes aware of an attraction to diapers, and sometimes will act upon this attraction in various ways, such as using diapers from younger siblings or buying some for themselves and using them. Many young diaper lovers also employ make-shift diapers such as folded towels with plastic pants fashioned from trash bags.
• The Diaper Lover also usually feels extreme comfort wearing diapers and for elder Diaper Lovers it can become a substite for underwear.

If you want this material is to be re-inserted, please discuss it here.
brenneman^(t)(c) 04:17, 18 July 2005 (UTC)

Simple answer. Wiki is open sourced and information is added by people who know about a subject. Thus, community trust is needed and people who know something about this subject edit it in constructive ways and makes sure it is not incorrect. Citing all the sources would make wiki a place for elite experts and not every day users. Also, all the rules are guidelines, not rules for exsistance. The article just wont be a featured article, but it still has worth. I am reverting the article and asking Inter to step in again. --OrbitOne 11:51, 5 August 2005 (UTC)

Sorry bud, but Wikipedia does not allow original research. And I do not see the logic behind the statement that citing sources makes wikipedia a place for elite experts. It doesn't take a genius to site a source. Where did you get your knowledge from? Where did you read this information? It's not hard; you pick up a book, read it, get the information, put it on here in your own words, and then tell us where that information came from. If that takes an elite expert then I guess I'm way out of my depth already. Sometimes you don't need to cite a source, sometimes the information is common knowledge - sometimes it needs to be cited regardless of how well known it is. The "original research" exception is if you have witnessed the existance of, for instance lets say an abandoned building, and you noted some of it's features, then made an article on it here, that would not be considered original research and would not require you to cite your source, because you would merely be reporting the existance of something that can be verified easily by a photograph or a visit to the site. However claiming that you have noticed x y and z about the building and publishing a theory about it on wikipedia WOULD be considered original research, and that is not allowed. Also, if you were to make a claim, for instance that the queen mother's brother lived in the building for 2 years, you would have to site your sources because that's something that cannot simply be taken on face value, which is when you cite your source. --Badharlick 11:27, 31 May 2006 (UTC)

I have sourced this article up the wazoo, so I'm going to take the tag down now. Fsecret 02:48, 28 February 2007 (UTC)

In my effort to fill out this article and get a lot of good citations in here, I have a misplaced fact that needs sourcing. I'm referring to the information in the psychology section about the latency period. It might have been in the "Understanding Infantilism" article or something similar, but I've done so much searching and added so much info here that now I can't find the page. Anyone who wants to help whip this article into shape could start reading through the various psychology pages that pop up on google to source the statement and expand the section. Thanks. Fsecret 03:00, 28 February 2007 (UTC)

A quick word search of Bob G's articles, Paraphilic Infantilism and the later Understanding Infantilism doesn't find reference to a latency period. I also don't recall references to a latency period on the website Understanding.Infantilism.org. Some survey results that I've been trying to make sense of might suggest a pause in the formation of infantilism and diaper fetishes that could be called a latency period. However, abandoning the paraphilia at this age seems atypical, although not unheard of. One surveyee quoted in the report on the Changing ABDL Community wrote "I totally repressed all memory of liking diapers some time around age 10. The memory returned when I was 25, and saw an advertisement for DPF."

Overall, there have been a large number of points added to the article. Could I ask that the rest of the citations be inserted? Sources need to be cited for traceability and checkability. They also prevent arguments, in theory. For example, one ratio that was the source of much debate last year was "About one in three adult babies is also a diaper lover." Originally, it was supported by two references. (Dave's survey was the second, and off-article, I'd also mention original research.) The phrase in the diaper Lovers article "adult babies invariably consider themselves to be diaper lovers" might draw similar debate. BitterGrey 05:24, 28 February 2007 (UTC)

In Dave's survey, 33% were DLs and 23% were ABDLs, so 41% of DLs also considered themseleves ABs. The sample size was 589. In Speaker's thesis, the analogous numbers were 6 and 8 (57%). <original research> More recent surveys include 'mostly DL' and 'mostly AB' categories, with 13% only DL, 32% mostly DL, and 27% equally AB and DL. Assumptions would be needed to calculate which option surveyees would have chosen if there were only the options of AB, DL, and ABDL. </original research>BitterGrey 13:50, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

In light of the ridiculous arguments it may fuel, it might be better to find a new way to phrase that. Even so, I say we keep it for now. Even the paraphilc infantilism page definitely defines the term in the first sentence of the article by saying that diapers are the main focus of the ageplay going on there. However, now that I look at it, that page is a complete mess. It goes on later to state that only one in three infantilists claims a diaper fetish ... not even a majority by a longshot! This is not reflected by any Adult Baby community I have ever seen or heard of. Diapers are indisputably the central focus of the sexual gratification happening there. It also seems like they are having some sort of debate over whether or not infantilism is even a sexual fetish, even though it is clearly categorized as one on Wikipedia. I am going to stay out of that one. What we need to focus on is cleaning up this page where we can actually get something done. Fsecret 00:55, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

The statistic regarding the amount of DLs who are also ABs has been removed for the time being. Apparently the original form in which it appeared (which at first seemed to have been be mistyped) was actually not mistyped. Apparently, 66.6% of adult babies do not want to be identified as having a sexual fetish of any kind, for ageplay or their diapers. As I have said above, this is an argument that needs to stay off of this page, since this page is about diaper fetishism. If anyone can find a real statistic regarding how many admitted diaper fetishists will also admit a fetish for infantile ageplay, I think that it can keep this page from becoming a big mess again. Fsecret 01:17, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

I hadn't been paying attention this page, but I just now did a side-by-side comparison of the version before your edits beginning Feb. 27 and the current version, and IMO "a big mess" is a much better description of what you've made of the article, than of what it used to be. Besides the "adult babies invariably considering themselves to be diaper lovers" nonsense already mentioned, just a few of the problems include:

A diaper fetish doesn't have to be sexual in nature. "Fetish" refers to an obsessive preoccupation, and the word does not necessarily imply any sexual component. There are people who consider themselves DL's, and for whom the label is clearly appropriate, who do not get sexually aroused by diapers, don't masturbate in conjunction with wearing them, and don't associate them with sexual feelings in any way. Whether or not sexuality is involved for "most" DL's is far from clear, and such an unequivocal statement should not be made without a source.

Calling diaper fetishism a form of anaclitism is a highly presumptuous generalization. It probably is for some people, but there are many other ways that a diaper fetish might develop besides simple imprinting during infancy, and whether anaclitism is the source of a diaper fetish in even one person, much less everyone with a diaper fetish, is completely unproveable.

The terms "hardcore" and "softcore" are inherhently subjective, judgemental, and unencyclopedic, and anyway are used out of context. The terms only apply to pornography, not paraphilias.

The assertion that incontinent people "pursue" diaper fetishism in order to find sexual partners is highly dubious, and again should not be made unless it can be sourced.

Fetishism doesn't have "participants". Activities have participants. Fetishism isn't an activity, it's an inclination. You don't have to *do* anything to fit the definition if a fetishist.

Referring to the interests of infantilists that are not shared by DL's as "ageplay" is problematic and controversial. There's an overlap between infantilism and ageplay, but one is not a subset of the other. The focuses are different, and the boundaries are blurry.

The repeated references to omarashi seem gratuitous and forced, as if you were just trying to find some excuse for mentioning it, rather than because it served any purpose in the article.

The psychology section focuses exclusively on Freudianism, and seems to treat his outdated, highly speculative arm-chair theories on the subject with an excessive degree of credulity. Anonymous55 08:41, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

In fact, nuts to this. I'm reverting the whole thing back to Feb. 26, for the reasons given above and more. Anonymous55 09:16, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

Move to Diaper fetishism

Also, might it not be better to move this page to "diaper fetishism?" It seems like a more encyclopedic title, and none of the other pages in the fetish category are listed by what the participants are commonly called. For instance, paraphilic infantilism is not called "Adult Baby" and the wet and messy page is not called "Sploosh." Any arguments for or against the move can go here. I say we give the matter two weeks to be discussed and come to a decision about the move. Fsecret 00:55, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

• Support -- As per my argument above. Fsecret 00:55, 15 March 2007 (UTC)
• Neutral -- However, we do need to keep the terms for the people (adult babies/diaper lovers), separate from the terms for the conditions (diaper fetishes, paraphilic infantilism). BitterGrey 05:22, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

Agreed, BitterGrey. Perhaps you could be in charge of writing something to that effect to be included on the page after the move? Fsecret 03:00, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

The above phrasing could be used with little modification. However, the difficult part would be staying consistent through the article in text and pretext. For example, an article about diaper fetishes may include a lot of information on diaper lovers, and visa vera. Probably so much so that only one of the two articles need be on wikipedia. They would, as Anonymous55 points out, be different articles. BitterGrey 05:11, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

• Neutral -- I just want to point out here that diaper fetishism is a subject with a wider scope than diaper lover. Diaper fetishists include people who are aroused by other people (such as their sexual partners) wearing diapers, but who would never wear them themselves, whereas, to the best of my knowledge, diaper lover by definition means someone who enjoys actually wearing them. (At least that's my understanding of the term, and also how the article defines it.) That's not necessarily an argument for not making the move, but if it is moved then the article would require some modification. Anonymous55 07:16, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

Sexual fetishism generally means arousal from the object, and is not specific to the "who" and the "where" of it. The rest is really just a matter of personal taste. And as far as I know, the "diaper lover" term arose in common use over the internet in order to describe someone who took part in diaper play. Slang generally does not recieve an offical definition unless it has been adopted by a dictionary. However, I agree that a moved article would have to include information regarding those who like to wear diapers for comfort rather than fetishism. Fsecret 03:08, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

The word "fetish" may not imply any particular "who and where", but for people who have a fetish, the who and where can be of critical importantance. It's a matter of taste only in the same sense that the entire subject of the article is a matter of taste (or in the sense that, for example, the difference between gay and straight is a matter of taste).

Whether or not a slang term can have an "official" definition, the point is that the article, as it's currently written, only covers people whose fixation (erotic or otherwise) with diapers involves wearing them themselves. It doesn't say anything about people who are only turned on by seeing other people in diapers. And it would have to if the article is moved. (Again, it wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing.)

I wasn't saying anything about people who wear diapers only for comfort. That wasn't the distinction I was making at all. Anonymous55 10:18, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

Well, it looks like the final tally comes to one vote of support and two votes of neutral. As such, the article will be moved. Fsecret 23:36, 31 March 2007 (UTC)

Panalphilia?

A [Google search] for "panalphilia" only gives two references to Wikipedia. Where else is this term used? BitterGrey 04:11, 8 September 2006 (UTC)

Our visions for the Diaper Lover article

Might it be worthwhile for us to discuss what we would like the Diaper Lover article to become, as well as how it relates to the sister article on paraphilic infantilism? BitterGrey 05:03, 14 December 2006 (UTC)

Moving forward

Despite my reverts, I actually think some bits and pieces of the material Fsecret added could be re-worked into something useable. I'll work on some ideas, but for now I'll start with something simple, and hopefully un-controversial:

I propose adding the following to the "See also" section:

• diaper
• sexual fetishism
• coprophilia
• urolagnia
• anaclitism

I'm on the fence about omorashi, as the only common factor appears to be urination, which is already covered by urolagnia. For similar reasons I didn't include ageplay, since the connection is only through infantilism.

Any objections/comments? Anonymous55 21:04, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

Those five seem fine for "see also" entries. (It would be better if the anaclitism article could support its etiological implications, but it is still a reasonale "see also" entry.)BitterGrey 05:59, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

I'll go ahead and add them then. I figure you know the history, and would have mentioned it if any of the terms were taboo or a focus of contention, which was my main concern. Anonymous55 06:51, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

Omorashi

BTW, does anyone know if omorashi is even for real? I never heard of it before yesterday, and the article seems to have been written single-handedly by Fsecret. Anonymous55 21:31, 15 March 2007 (UTC)

It appears to be a real Japanese word, but other pages don't seem to use it to describe a specific paraphilia. One ABDL page that discusses the word[11], defines it as "a colloquial term for the act of urination" or "peeing uncontrollably." A non-ABDL online dictionary [12] translates it simply as "peeing." There might be fine nuances involved that are best left in the hands of editors who know Japanese, in the Japanese language wiki.BitterGrey 05:59, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

Okay, but the omorashi article I was referring to is an English-language one that Fsecret recently created. The article claims that it's a fetish with some kind of special association with Japanese culture, which seems dubious to me. Fetishes generally don't depend on nationality, and if it's for real, I would expect there would be an English word for it, and that word should be the title of the article. I'll leave it for people who know something about the subject to deal with, but I'm definitely not going to add a link to it. This whole thing is setting off a bunch of red flags for me. Anonymous55 06:51, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

As in the case of panalphilia[13], the test was to find sources outside of wikipedia. If Google can't find a substantial number of English uses of the word, then perhaps it doesn't belong in the English wikipedia. I've read Fsecret's article, which seems to apply the same word to game show contestants as to those with a paraphilia. If the word simply means "urination," "urinary urge," or "urinary accident," this isn't incorrect. This would, however, not be grounds for an English article. BitterGrey 14:17, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

Check the outside links. Omorashi is a type of erotica in which women experiance bathroom desperation and wet themselves, usually in their panties, sometimes in a diaper. The game shows and the erotic (though admitedly, only erotic to someone turned on by girls wetting themselves) videos are produced by the same handful of companies for the same fanbase: people who enjoy seeing girls try to hold it and fail. A quick visit to Giga or Sanwa should statisfy anyone who is sceptical about the existance of omorashi. There are also some fetish glossaries here that define it.

• A Japanese fetish glossary
• Another Japanese fetish glossary

I added the reference on the diaper lover page because omutsu omorashi is the Japanese equivalent of diaper fetishish. What is interesting about it is that unlike in english speaking countries, their diaper lover community is not associated with their adult baby community. (Which, FYI, is called Aka-chan.) Certainly notable on the diaper lover page, in my opinion.

As for the info I added, I am glad that Anonymous55 has gone on record to say that there were ideas there that might be fitted into the article. I will tread a little lighter next time, and perhaps these contributions can be worked in without so much fuss. Sorry for rushing in like that. I didn't mean to step on anyone's toes. Fsecret 23:42, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

Oh, by the way, if checking for relevence to omorashi, Sanwa primarily focuses on diaper content, where Giga has more of the little "I-have-to-pee-but-can't-make-it" dramas. Fsecret 23:49, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

I have copied and pasted the omorashi discussion to the appropriate talk page. Fsecret 23:55, 16 March 2007 (UTC)

I looked at your links. In the first one, the word "omorashi" does not appear anywhere. In the second one, it's hard to tell because the English is so fractured (in fact it looks like a machine translation from Japanese), but it looks like it's describing a type of service offered by prostitutes. It says that "omorashi" means to pee ones pants, but in what context? Only in an erotic context as your article suggests, or in any context? You can't tell from the link. And the way the service is described makes it sound like the prostitute is playing a "mommy" role, as in infantilism, which sounds completely different from what your article says.

Your link to "Giga" brings up what looks like a page of pornographic video covers. I'm sorry, but I'm not about to wade through a bunch of material like that in order to find out what a word means. The one to "Sanwa" just brings up what I assume to be an explicit content warning in Japanese (which I can't read), so I'm going to assume it's more of the same.

You just said that omorashi is a type of erotica, by which I assume you mean pornography. But your article says its a fetish. Which is it? Those are two different things. (This ties into another problem I had with your edits to diaper lover, which I left out because I couldn't figure out how to express it before - that you seem to talk about fetishes and genres of pornography as if they're the same thing. And I hope I don't have to explain why that's a huge problem as far as the infantilism and diaper lover articles are concerned.)

I'm finding this all very confusing, and I'm afraid I'm still no closer to understanding what "omorashi" encompases, and what relation it has, if any, to diaper lovers.

And I just want to clarify that the reason I reverted your edits was the specific problems that they introduced (including the ones I listed previously), and not just because you weren't discussing first. I appreciate your discussing first, and by discussing we can hopefully avoid the problems that make reverts necessary. But the reverts were based on the content, not on behavior. Anonymous55 10:10, 17 March 2007 (UTC)

Well, first of all I suppose I should address my use of the term erotica vs. pornography. Pornography generally implies nudity or sex. Omorashi activity never involves sex and rarely involves any nudity at all. Someone totally unacquainted with the idea might watch an omorashi video and not see anything sexual about it. However, for an omorashi fetishist, seeing a girl have a bathroom accident is very erotic. Without actual sex to worry about, the omorashi fetish videos provided by companies like Giga and Sanwa range from documentary (video of a fetish convention where girls are wetting their pants or having diapers changed) to dramatic (a staged scenario with actors and a script which ends in a girl wetting herself) to game shows (like Giga's Desperation Tournament.) It is hard to call a gameshow pornography when we generally associate the term with people who get off from watching actual sex. However, Giga and companies like it market all of these side by side as "omorashi." Even if one cannot read Japanese, it is easy to verify this by looking at the page that you described as looking like "a page of pornographic video covers." Most of these videos have the word OMORASHI printed in roman letters on the front. As for the translation, what can I say? Google has yet to perfect the automatic translator. You could ask it to show you the original page, but then it would be in all Japanese. By the way, anyone wanting to view the main sight can scroll to the bottom of the page and click "TOP PAGE," clearly printed in English. This will take you away from the omorashi page to the main page, where you can see Giga's other "erotic-but-not-necessarily-pornographic" movies.

The "prostitution" you refer to is probably the omorashi service at an "image club" or "pink salon." Prostitution is illegal in Japan, though the only thing the Japanese government defines as such is genital-to-genital contact. Pink Salons are establishments that have in the past specialized in oral sex, but these days have gradually added a number of other "not-quite-sex" services. They are a place where one can go to receive a massage plus oral sex or a range of other fetish oriented services that are not sex, but are as good as sex to a fetishist. Image clubs offer an extensive range of fantasy services that include costumes and settings. An omorashi service can involve either the client, the masseuse, or both, wetting themselves, with or without a diaper. This can sometimes involved a "teiku auto" or "take out" where you get to take home your masseuse's wet panties or diaper, or just their urine in a bottle.

Omorashi is more than a "genre of pornography." It is a highly developed Japanese fetish subculture that, though it does not involve sex or even in most cases nudity, is catered to by the purveyors of adult entertainment in that country.

By the way, the Sanwa link that you said looks like an adult content warning is. Click on the button in the middle of the page and you will go into the site and onto a page that says "omorashi web club." That much is in English. Not much else on the site is, but there will be one of a few randomly assorted welcome pictures of a girl in wet panties or a diaper that anyone can understand.

Omorashi is a fetish thing. Anyone who would describe themselves as an omorashi fan will tell you that seeing a girl wet herself in a diaper gets them off. This is not always true of those who identify as "AB/DL." I think it would benefit both this page and the paraphilc infantilism page to find a statistic regarding exactly how many "AB/DLs" do not regard what they do as sexual.

Anyhow, those who identify as diaper fetishists and would agree that seeing a girl wet herself in a diaper is erotic for them. They would probably regard diaper-wearing omorashi fans as fellow diaper lovers. Fsecret 02:57, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

<original research> The presence or absence of sexual practices, such as masturbation, etc., is plotted in Figure #8 of the first results report on the AB, DL, Etc survey. The level of sexual interest (but possibly not activity) is plotted in Figure #7.</original research.>

Back on the subject of omorashi, I think more material needs to be available on the subject. The second fetish glossary doesn't distinguish it from common AB practices (wetting and being changed), and the first doesn't seem to list the word. BitterGrey 05:40, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

Okay, that clears up some things. If "omorashi" is the name of a subculture, then it actually does make some sense to have an article by that name in the English language wikipedia, describing the subculture. However, I think you definitely need to change the opening paragraph of your article so it says that it's a subculture, rather than saying it's a fetish. That would do a lot to reduce the confusion.

A fetish is not a subculture, and vice versa. A fetish is a psychological state, and is independent of culture. A subculture can revolve around a fetish, but that doesn't make the two equivilent. A person can be a fetishist without being a member of/participant in any subculture.

When I was using the word "pornography", I meant it in a way that includes things that don't depict nudity or intercourse, including what you're calling "erotica" rather than pornography. The distiction between material that's only erotic to someone with a paraphilia and that which isn't is the least of the distinctions I'm concerned about. And on that note, I obviously do need to explain why it's a problem to couch infantilism and diaper fetishes in the kind of terms that you were.

These things you're talking about, the "omorashi fetish videos", the "pink salons", even the game shows - they're all about sexual gratification turned into a product, to be bought and sold. What the infantilism and diaper lover articles are about, when they're about behaviors at all rather than mere psychological states, is for the most part things that people do in private, either by themselves, or with partners who are consenting adults, and who are taking part because they want to, and not because they're being paid. Nobody's being exploited. But in this "omorashi" stuff, you've got real women, doing things that demean themselves, (whether or not a straight person would recognise it as being sexual), for someone else's gratification, for money. And you've got companies whose business is exploiting these women sexually/financially, selling videos of them on sites like the ones you pointed me to, or whatever. (And I'm not going to go look at those sites again, no matter how many times you say it. That shit offends me, okay?)

I know this stuff exists, and that it isn't going away. And its existence might as well be documented. And Wikipedia isn't censored. But when you do things like compare the situation of diaper lovers to that of "omorashi enthusiasts", and use words like "hardcore" and "softcore", and "participate", and go on about how hard it is for diaper lovers to find their "materials" on the web, etc., the picture you're painting is of someone who is automatically going to be someone who's contributing to/providing a market for that kind of exploitation. And there's enough of a stigma attached to infantilism already without adding in that whole new dimension. Anonymous55 09:57, 18 March 2007 (UTC)

Psychology

I have added a psychology section with references to two articles from medical journals. Help from anyone who wants to help build this section would be welcome. Fsecret 03:13, 22 March 2007 (UTC)

I copied and pasted the full citation for Pate's article, Adult baby syndrome, from the paraphilic infantilism article, and the full citation for Maltz's (full text) from Pate's article, where it is the first reference. Neither article seems to mention a latency period, anal stage, Etc. Would people like to discuss the reference's appliability to the sentence, reword the sentence to match the references, or remove them? BitterGrey 06:31, 24 March 2007 (UTC)

Well, Malitz's article states that the boy in question developed the paraphilia when he was a young child, then repressed the memory, which "did not recur until puberty when sexual desires were intensifying [...] at 13 or 14." In Dr. Pate's article, she reports that "his wish to be a baby began at approximately age 12, when puberty must have been approaching. We can speculate that one of the determinants of the adult baby syndrome in this case may have been a wish to avoid the threat of genital sexuality by regressing to an infantile dependent state." We might want to use these quotes in the article in order to more clearly show how they might compare with freud's own theorys regarding fixation.Fsecret 01:26, 25 March 2007 (UTC)

Merging with Paraphilic Infantilism

It has suggested that this article be merged with paraphilic infantilism[14]. What are people's views on this?

• Agree: The cultures maintaining the two articles have been different, but this might not preclude merging. There also has been no discussion on how the two articles might evelove on separate paths[15]. The DSM includes separate diagnosies for paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetishism, however, the empirical studies consistently show a continuoum. Individuals differ along a range. Furthermore, all of the references in the diaper lover article were from the paraphilic infantilism article. ( One was converted for the diaper lover article, from stating the adult baby/diaper lover continuoum from an adult baby perspective to stating it from a diaper lover perspective. Another is the first reference from "The Adult Baby Syndrome," a reference from the paraphilic infantilism article.) BitterGrey 14:31, 22 March 2007 (UTC)

• Certainly not: This article is already severly skewed toward the adult baby side of diaper fetishism, regardless of the fact the less than half of diaper lovers are Adult babies. I have a feeling that this is because there is a large and agressive AB community that has been doing most of the work on these articles. In order to maintain NPOV, this article must be allowed to move away from the topic of Adult Babies and toward a more accurate representation of the other more common kinds of diaper use in fetishism. Fsecret 00:52, 24 March 2007 (UTC)

I did remove the merge tag, but then reverted my own edit when I realized how recent this discussion was. I'll give this a least couple more days before deleting it again. --Umalee 22:43, 28 March 2007 (UTC)

I would ask you not to delete the merge tag no matter how many days have passed. Both articles are quite long and a merge would take time. Consider that the references to this article use the term infantilism in their title, and several do not use the term diaper lover. Given this a merge to the term preferred by the citations seems like a proposal that should stand.Lotusduck 01:17, 31 March 2007 (UTC)

Until the discussion about merging is settled, it might be practical not to spend much time on text copied from the paraphilic infantilism article and pasted into this one. For example, the sentenses just removed [16] originally summarized two sections in the paraphilic infantilism article. The first contrasted parpaphilic infantilism with diaper fetishism [17]. This section has 12 references, with the contrast most breifly shown in the two references to DSM, #12 and #14 (now #20 and #22). The other section, contrasting both with pedophilia [18], included 4 references. The pedophilia section was one of three pasted into the diaper lover article [19][20][21].BitterGrey 12:25, 31 March 2007 (UTC)

Wikipedia information should be attributed. Paraphrasing attributed articles is not attribution, and of course brings us farther from the original attributed articles, which is a bad thing. That being said, removing uncited material is still a good thing, and if that material is cited in another part of wikipedia, I think it's far less harm done than if it were not.Lotusduck 04:20, 31 March 2007 (UTC)

I wasn't asserting that it was wrong, but that it might be more efficient to settle the discussion about merging first. If the articles are merged, the unattributed versions of the copied sections will go away as entire sections, not sentence by sentence. The attributed version, of course, should remain. BitterGrey 12:25, 31 March 2007 (UTC)

Preferences in Diaper Fetishism

I think that this article might be improved by condensing/rewording/making more encyclopedic some of the details in the "Aspects of the Fetish" which deal with preference into a sectioned called "Preferences in Diaper Fetishism." It might look something like this:

"Like many fetishes, personal preference plays a large role in which communities the fetishist will identify with. In diaper fetishism, one of the primary divisions of preference is whether or not the diapers are used for their intended purpose, and if so, to what degree.

Many diaper lovers gain arousal from "wetting" or urinating in their diapers. A smaller number gain the same arousal from using the diaper to "mess" or defecate. Some fetishists do not use their diapers at all. They may find such practices unappealing or they might not want to deal with the cleanup. Others may become aroused by wearing in public; still others prefer the security of wearing only in private.

Many diaper lovers choose to wear in both public and private, using their diapers as intended and never visiting the toilet. Though for a large group this embodies the full spirit of the fetish, others have found that their enjoyment of wearing diapers diminishes rapidly when the need to wear diapers is always present.[22]

Another preference might be cloth or disposable. Disposables have become increasingly popular in recent years due better availability and ease of clean-up, but many diaper lovers who were babies in the era of washable cloth diapers tend to prefer washables as adults.[23]"

Does anyone else think this would be a good idea? Fsecret 01:47, 25 March 2007 (UTC)

There are open discussions regarding moving or merging this article. Perhaps it might be practical to hold off on adjustments to the article's form until we decide what form the article should take. BitterGrey 06:03, 25 March 2007 (UTC)